All You Have to Do Is Ask: How to Master the Most Important Skill for Success (Wayne Baker, 2020)

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  • Reasons people do not ask for help (choose 1 that best reflect your situation)
    1. Underestimated other's willingness and ability to help.
    2. Overly self-reliance,
    3. Suspect on social cost for the help.
    4. Work culture lacks psychological safety.
    5. Systems, procedures or structure of your organisation get in your way.
    6. Do not know how or what to request.
    7. Have not earn the privilege of asking for help.
    8. We could be selfish.
  • Guidelines for giver-requesters
    1. Give without string attached or expectations of return.
    2. Give freely and know your limits to avoid generosity burnout.
    3. Ask for help freely and avoid dependent help-seeking.
    4. See it long-term as in the long run you will be giving and seeking.
  • Examples of asking for help
    1. I am currently working on ... and I could use help to ...
    2. One of my urgent tasks is to ... and I need to ...
    3. I am struggling to ... and I would benefit from ...
    4. One of the biggest challenges in my life is to ... and I need advice on ...
    5. My biggest hope is to ... and I need ...

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