The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (Stephen Covey, 1989)

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Review: You won't go wrong reading this book regardless how long ago was it, the habits basically apply to anyone at any era at at continent. Rated: 9.5/10


  • Common human challenges
    • Fear and insecurity
    • “I want it now”
    • Blame and victimism
    • Hopelessness
    • Lack of life balance
    • “What’s in it for me?”
    • The hunger to be understood
    • Conflict and differences
    • Personal stagnation
      • Body
      • Mind
      • Heart
      • Spirit
  • Effective habits = knowledge (what to, why to) + skills (how to) + desire (want to)
  • Emotional bank deposit
    • Understanding the individual
    • Attending to the little things
    • Keeping commitments
    • Clarifying expectations
    • Showing personal integrity
    • Apologising sincerely when you make a withdrawal
    • The law of love and the law of life
  • Habit 1: be proactive
    • Highly proactive people recognise responsibility and they do not blame circumstances, conditions or conditioning for their behaviour
    • Reactive (I can’t) vs. proactive (I choose)
    • Circle of concern circling Circle of influence, to grow the inner circle always focus on factors you can control instead
    • Concern (“If only I have…”) vs. influence (“I will be…”)
  • Habit 2: begin with the end in mind
    • What would people say about you in your funeral
    • Carpenter: measure twice cut once
    • Never win by superiority, it is a battle full of emotional debris
    • Always practice self-aware
    • Centre = security + guidance + power + wisdom
    • Principle centre (most balance) = money + work + possessions + pleasure + friend + enemy + church + self + spouse + family
    • If you pick up one end of a stick, you pick up the other
  • Habit 3: put first things first
    • Important vs urgent, effect people doesn’t do thing that is not important
    • Important + not urgent quadrant: coherence, balance, focus, “people” dimension, flexibility, portability
    • Long-term organising: mission statement → roles → goals
    • Weekly organising: roles → goals → plans → schedule / delegate
    • 4th gen self-management
      • Principle-centered
      • Conscience-directed
      • Defines unique mission
      • Balance your by identifying roles
      • Greater context through weekly organisation
    • Management achieve more output by shifting the fulcrum (pivot) over
    • Stewardship delegation
      • Desired results
      • Guidelines
      • Resources
      • Accountability
      • Consequences
  • Habit 4: think win/win
    • Character
    • Integrity
    • Maturity
    • Abundance mentality
    • Relationships
    • Agreements
    • Desired results
    • Guidelines
    • Resources
    • Accountability
    • Consequences
  • Habit 5: seek first to understand, then to be understood
    • “Be positive” is not helpful at all
  • Habit 6: Synergise
    • High synergy have high trust and high cooperation
    • Knowing between the driving forces (positive) and restraining forces (negative)
  • Habit 7: Sharpen the saw / renewal
    • Physical + social/emotional + mental + spiritual


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